When Touch stone and Personaliy meets...

Each week in this course has been good to me. I learn a little more about my self; past, present and future. This week I realized why I choose not to pursue a career in theater versus all of the possibilities that you will soon read on below. I choose not to pursue an acting carrer because my purpose in life lies far from entertainment, I think my purpose in life is to serve the under represented by giving them a voice.

*Exercise 1:
Read Barbara Sher's chapter Goal search
".Write your dream, touchstone, role model and target post them on blog along with insights."

5 lives
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Some where in politics
Dream : positively impact the Nigerian government
Touchstone: Be in a position where I can represent "the people"
Role model: The older I get, the more I realize who I am becoming, I am unaware of anyone that is currently in such position, but I do know that they exists. I intend to research; not for the purpose of making anyone my role model, but if it happens, great!
Target: bring hope to Nigeria and it's people

Lawyer/
*Senator(Something in politics)
Dream: Represent those whom can not necessarily afford Lawyers
Touch stone: Be a voice for the underprivileged
Role Model: Obama "Yes we can"
Target: I recognize that life may never be perfect and hope that I can change any little bit of it....

Doctor
Dream : Open a non for profit hospital in Nigeria
Touchstone: Help the ill by providing health care to those who can not necessarily afford it.
role model: My father; he urges me that it is possible and it is needed. From my perspective however, there are other things that must be done in Nigeria before, bettering health care; something higher up in the hierarchic of needs.
target: open a county clinic; non for profit

*Activist
This exercise acknowledged my fear of commitment, I am often afraid to state my plans after my bachelors because they change with knowledge. The more I learn about opportunities that are out there to server the world and Nigeria particularly, the more options I see. Since I have been working towards obtaining my bachelors I have switched my focus of study from Pre-med biology, to Nursing and now economics Pre-law. I often find it hard however to state my current pre-law staus because I am afraid that people will hold me to it. Barbra sher acknowledges this "fear of commitment" in this chapter. She stated that societies misconception is that when we decide on what we want to do we have to stick with it, she negates the idea. Sher, stating that as a misconceptions made me feel much more comfortable choosing and listing the majors above; otherwise this assignment may taken me a life time to complete. Thanks Barbra Sher!(LOL). Barbra Sher goes further in this idea by acknowledging that some dreams are impossible and are mere fantasies; I understand this. However, I believe that most dreams are possible;especially my dreams. As selfish or concieted as this may sound I mean it in a humble manner.

In order to accomplish my goals I have to begin educating myself on bills and laws in Nigeria.
The reason why my focus is on working in Nigeria is because of the brain drain theory, this theory claims that the reason why many third world countries suffer, is because the professionals who leave the country for educational empowerment often do not return to put their knowldge in their economy/society. I believe this theory because I witness it; when talking to forigners and the question of giving back (human capitol)to their homeland comes up they often ask, "why would I go back to suffer?" My questions is, " Why would you go back to suffer?, Go back to CHANGE!"
*Exercise 2:
Take a personality test @ (http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgiwin/JTypes2.asp) after taking the test we were to read up on our personality type @ http://www.personalitypage.com/high-level.html

(To my friends that follow my blog, I recommend you take the personality test as well; be sure to be truthful with your answers, only then will your results be true to you.)

My personality type is"ENFJ" Extroverted Intuitive Feeling Judging. extroverted feeling with introverted intuition.

Some bullet points about ENFJ's

*GIVER

*Strong need for close and meaninful relationships.

*Primary mode of living :Deal with things based on how you feel about them ( externally)

*Seconadary mode of living: Deal with things based on intuition.

*Focused Individuals

*have an extraordinary talent for bringing the best out in people.

*main intrest in life is giving love, support, and a good time to other people.

* Motives are "usually" unselfish

*FIND IT DIFFICULT TO SPEND TIME ALONE... but needs time alone (finally getting that alone time in Right NOW)

*Reserved about exposing themselves (ha ha ha....this is why most people would say I don't care what people think.)

*Likely to interact with others on their own level (OMg... these people have been following me around.)

*Express values and Opinions clearlt and succinctly.

*Supportive and responsive to ohers

*May feel quite lonely even when surrounded by people. (Okay ya'll... here it is...this is why I am a "PARTY POOPER" I prefer small social gatherings that way I am able to interact with people. The club to me is like a war zone! )

*"People love ENFJ's, they are fun to be with and truly understand and love people."

*They are straight forward (If you "Nomi" you know this..)

*Self confident

*Bright, full of potential, energetic and fast paced (They've been stalking me how did they know that!?...lol)

*Good at anything that captures there interest (It hard for things to capture my intrest but when it does... I am one of the best at it!!!)

*Well organized, structured and ambiguos ( All ways working on that)

*Do well in situations where they can inspire and lead others (NATURAL BORN LEADER)

*Do not like dealing with impersonal reasoning.

*Get excited about the future and possibilities.

*Unhappy in situations when they are forced to deal with Logic without human connection (this is true...shhh....but I didn't like my job in AAAN because I was stuck at a computer typing with no one to talk to!) (But too personal can be bad too...I dislike nursing because IT IS WAY TOO PERSONAL!)

*"Their genuine intrest in Humankind and their exceptional intuitive awareness of people make them able to draw out the most reerved individuals." (OMG....I do this all the time. I always talk to strangers, thats a GIVEN! BUT, whenI notice someone is shy or uncomfortable, I try to talk to them and make them feel comfortable.)

*Loyal and Trustworthy "Once involved in a relationship"(haha...YES, I am trustworthy... mostly because of GOD! I know that individual that I am being untruthful to doesn't know it...GOD does, because he sees and knows all things.)

*An ENFJ who has not found there place in the world is likely to be extremely sensetive to criticism, and have a tendency to worry excessively and feel guilty.(This when I usually hear people say, "Don't worry, your still young, you'll find your "calling" soon. Last semester was tough for me, I was extremely worried and felt guilty because I had decided nursing was not for me. I felt lost and uncomfortable and would spend hours worrying. If you know me well you know that I am very hard on myself. NOW, the new Nomi is majoring in Economics and hoping to go back to Nigeria soon and help in the development of the country.)

I tend to think that I talk too much or that I am too friendly, some times I would tell myself today, I am going to stay to myself and not talk to people. This assignment has done a great job helping me feel comfortable with my "jabber box mouth" and my over the top friendliness. It has helped me understand why I put people feelings before mine; usually when I tried analyzing why I put people's feelings before mine, I would often say to myself, "it's because I know that no matter what I will be Okay!" Although this is still true, I have a more in depth understanding of this reasoning.

This assignment made me more comfortable with myself and has also gave me a little more confidence about my character. THIS IS WHO I AM... A GIVER!

Almost all my friends are best friends! I tend to develope meaningful relationships without trying. I hold on to close friends rather than many friends. I would give my friend anything I got that they need. I tend not to have associates, and the few that I do have I would make them a close friend in a heart beat!

Assignment 3

Exercise 4:

I am pink. I am bold. I am bright and intelligent. Many girls like me, some women love me, men even adore me. I am beautiful, anywhere and everywhere I go I am noticed. I am loving, warm and caring. I wear a big smile all the time. I like beautiful things.  I enjoy dancing. I am down to earth, approachable, and humble. I am ambitious. I am open to new things.

Exercise 5:

My apartment is cozy and filled with bright colors everywhere! In every room there is pink, pink may unconsciously be my favorite color. This persons room is tidy and organized. On the book shelf  there are a variety of books, she enjoys reading and will read almost anything. The shelf consists of biology, chemistry and poetry books, novels, history, many dictionaries. The movie shelf  is filled with dramas and comedies and a lot of African movies, very few action movies, this person maybe laid back. The CD holder consists of old school, hip hop, R&B, soul R&B, African music and Rap. This person definently appreciates music. The closet is  exceptionally organized a lot of dark colors  for winter clothes and the brightest colors for spring and summer clothing. This person owns a lot of brown and black clothing and has way too many shoes! There is no trend in her style except for colors. She values her family and has lots of pictures around the house of her family members. On the walls are favorite poems by Maya Angelou in different color frames. Many stuffed animals are around the room. This person is sensual.

Twenty things I like to do are...

1. watching African movies

2. hang with my childhood friends, really more like cousins.

3. dance infron of my long mirror

4. Act infront of my mirror

5.Sing

6. Eat out at different reasturants

7. Drink wine

8.Listen to music

9. Read

10.Relax, by being pamered. (spa's, manicures, pedicures, waxing, bubble baths)

11.swiming (Good Lawd, knows I can't)

12. yoga

13. boxing and kick boxing

14.Writing

15. Beign alone

16. Running

17. Listen to people(discussions on current events)

18. I love visiting museums and aquariums

19.Hanging with girlfriends, playing games and chatting

20.Studying and Learning 

exercise 8

My ideal enviroment  is filled  with  people and there is a little corner just for me. This environment is surrounded with water. Eveyone is doing there own thing. There are lots of food and Margaritas to go around. There are many museums and presidential libraries to see. There are different types of fishes. No birds, no cats, no dogs, no flies(including cock roaches) and they are definently no mice or rats. Everyone is happy, no one is suffering. There is a starbucks and my apple laptop definently accompanies me. All my siblings are right by my side to share the beauty. There are bright colors every where. No cars buses or trains. Everything is close by and everyone owns a horse. I however own a white and pink horse.There are no rules everyone just does what is right and care about the community as a whole.

Exercise 9:

My ideal day

 It's 5:30am and I am up bright early filled with energy. I start my morning with a fresh cup of foldgers coffee, I would then check my email and listen to my voicemails, taking notes so I remember everything. I turn to the morning news while creating my daily agenda using my much broader weekly agenda. Next, I open the glass sliding door that leads to the beach in the back  of my white house. I start by running along the lake  front and then I follow it up with some yoga. I watch the sun rise then head back in my home  and prepeare for my day  at work, I own my own hospital or I work in Coorperate Law. While at the office, I take care of important business, and work hard to make sure my  clients and or patients are satisfied. I socialize with my employees; and try to maintain a strigent boss employee relationship while being very cool with them. I spend fifteen minutes on a phone conference with my siblings and my mother. Then I buzz my father to see how he is doing. After a short day at the office I meet up with a few friends(men  and women) for dinner, we discuss everything from marraige life and our children to current events. We spend the last few hour of the dinner discussing an ongoing project that we are forecasting in Africa and discuss our next trip to Africa; we discuss our goals are in helping the country become better developed, promoting scholarship and impacting the government. Then I head home in my two door (whatever year it is)BMW and I call my husband to confirm that his had dinner. When I get home I'll have some wine, with my hubby and discuss our day(if he isn't/wasn't a part of the dinner discussion) then end my day with a nice bubble bath in our medium sized jacuzzi.  

(That was  fun. I am laughing but I can  see that being an ideal day for me.)

Exercise 9:

Fantasy Analysis

The elements in my ideal day analysis that are essential is the success, close relationship with my family and projects in helping Nigeria become a better place.

The elements that can be eliminated however are the BMW, the jaccuzi, living in a beach house.

The unessential elements are watching the sunrise from the lake front. I can have a area in my home office or bedroom(anywhere) that will allow me to enjoy that sun rise!

The indispencible element are the most vital things to my heart. If I have to leave everything else and just deal with the essentials, I would still be happy with myself.

The elements that already  exist is the daily talk with 1 of my 4 younger siblings. At least once a week we have a phone conference with my mom and sometimes the other siblings and dad are present.

I currently do not have that(whatever year) BMW niether do I have a hubby nor am I a boss. (But I am "bosslady")

The walls that are currently between me and my ideal life is time, me completing my education and money. 

Activities I love....

From the front of my mirror to my audience.

This week I performed a short monologue of Trudy 

This was not planned my younger sister kept telling other family member that I could play a good crack head and the scene was extremely hilarious. She knew this because we usually work on my one woman act together. She gives me constructive criticism about my act and often record me with her phone. She showed my cousin one of the short recordings on her phone and she asked me to please perform it so everyone can laugh. It took a while and the whole party to convince me, but I ended up doing it. It felt good because I had not performed infront of an audience in a while. Everyone was laughing and when I was done a few people told me I should pursue an acting career. What I enjoyed most was how I captured their attention. I like the feeling and the challenge of keeping my audience interested. It made me feel like, "BOSS LADY". Sometimes I think I might enjoy being a "Nollywood Star"(Nigerian Hollywood)  but that is not a priority, I think it is more of an hobby!